One night stands have never appealed to me, I know several people who would not mind indulging in a bit of casual sex without any hope or binding that it should culminate in a serious relationship. As a general rule, men do not have too many hang-ups about such indulgences. There are a lot of women too, who are not keen on getting into any commitment and can agree to this kind of casual sex with their dating partners. There are very heavy chances though, that during your dating life, you will get into a situation, what I term as reverse-payback. This means that while you get mentally attached to a person who you indulged with, for a quickie, but before you know it, they’ve left you.
If you are seriously contemplating to indulge only in these casual sex encounters, you have to hype up your seduction powers: abundance of humor, charm and the ability to tease your way through, so that your plan bears fruit faster. So if you are in a public arena, move quickly to a more private, romantic and secluded place, where you can communicate one-to-one. While you move away from the public glare, pump up your seducing prowess to the hilt.
In case you are in a quandary, as to which person to select for such a sexual escapade, the right target are those who you have an instant chemistry with. Through the right communication, glances, touches, the instant chemistry “clicks” – and you have found the right person. Please don’t judge these folks as “easy” or “cheap” – it is simply that they are “readily available” at that moment. But beware, such people fall in to the far side of the range – from “super-easy” to super-rigid” – and all along you must have to practice the basic principles of self-discipline and controlled behavior.
How you manage a one night stand depends primarily on your personality and your requirements. There are many instances where a one night stand has culminated in a brief romantic interlude. Please note that it’s hard to graduate from a one night quickie and glide into a steady, trusted and stable relationship. The basis of almost all short to long-term relationships is, a far more lengthier period of romancing rather than jumping into frenetic sex.
It is beneficial for you to remember one basic fact: honesty is the best policy, even in bed! While you are in the seduction process, be honest and truthful about your intentions, face up to whatever you are committing – do not glib talk your way through right into bed ! For the simple reason, lies ultimately don’t take you anywhere. Not only is deception dishonorable, you do get paid back in your own coin, sooner or later. So, not to scare you with concepts of bad “karma” but as an adult, you know that every action you take today, will pave the way for your tomorrow.